Now take a trip to this same mountain. Dip your feet into the clear stream. Reach in and try to touch the tiny fish.
The experience you will have looking at the picture compares to the experience we have texting or using other social media to communicate.
The experience you will have climbing the mountain and feeling the stream compares to the experience we have actually being in the room with people and looking at their faces, hearing their voices, and being able to touch them.
In a an article entitled, “Face-time vs Screen Time” parenting expert and pediatric nurse Denise Daniels is quoted as saying ”These kids aren’t connecting emotionally. Emails, texts — these lack the emotive qualities of face-to-face interaction.”
Does a friendly emoji replace a hug or even a phone call? Probably not, just as a picture of a mountain doesn’t replace the actual experience of climbing the mountain. Pictures are nice. Emojis are nice. But they don’t take the place of a real experience.
In the same article, Dr. Kate Roberts, a Boston-based school psychologist explains his views of the use of technology to communication. He says people who increasingly rely on technology to communicate are paying a heavy price society is just beginning to understand.
“Families text rather than have conversations. We’re living in a culture of sound bites, and that is not developing our verbal skills or our emotional intelligence,” Roberts said. “We’re down on the interaction time. Right now, at Boston College, there’s a course on how to ask a person out on a date. It’s like we’ve lost the skill of courtship and the ability to make that connection.”
The whole article can be see here, but it reads in part:
“Daniels is talking about neurotransmitters — chemicals in the brain that relay information between nerves. A developing child is born with pathways that expand based on stimulation like a parent’s voice, music, touch and eventually play. They also help children file and organize endless pieces of information gathered as they age. But for children who spend too much time interacting through a screen, something happens, Daniels says.
“Their neural pathways change and different ones are created. It affects concentration, self-esteem, in many cases they don’t have as deeply personal relationships,” Daniels said. “They lose empathy. We’ve seen kids like this that don’t develop those sympathetic and empathetic skills they need.”
Here at Wipple we love technology; however, we want everyone to consider spending face time with important people in your life.